Apologies
I would like to apologize to Pete and Mo. . . they were the first couple who invited a date of mine to a wedding and didn't invite me, even though they had met me several times. In order to meet the size requirements for their wedding, they chose not to invite any additional people except for spouses and fiances. I did not take kindly to this, since they had MET me after all. This must mean they didn't like me. I took it personally. I think I may have thrown a bit of a fit, and ultimately, I was invited to the wedding. (Though I don't actually remember if the boyfriend in question actually asked, or if I was invited of their own accord once they knew they had room for me.)
There are other weddings, where I did the calling up and asked if I could bring my significant other, even though I'd been invited alone. I apologize to these hosts as well.
I am sorry. I just didn't understand. I didn't understand that each one of you really had thought carefully, long and hard, about just how many people could be there, how much you could afford, and how badly you felt that you wanted to include all your friends and family, but just couldn't do that and invite their dates too.
Which, of course, leads to the next apology. We had to make an executive decision to not write "and guest" on anyone's invitation. It was the only way to make sure we included everyone we wanted to. And I know some of you have been dating people for awhile, and in some cases Steve and I have even met your significant others . . . but, well, we just couldn't make the dates thing work given the size of the venue.
And that leads us to the ending thank you. As sad as I am about how tough it is to fit in all the people one wants, and as worried as I've been that we've had to exclude some people, and as constantly as I go over the numbers in my head convinced we don't have enough seats for everyone . . . I want to say a thank you to you all:
May Steve's and my biggest problem always be that we have too many friends and family around us whom we love and want to have celebrate with us.
posted by Karen @ 3:12 PM
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And then you will become a parent and you will know why I didn't come to your 30th birthday 5 weeks after number 2 was born. I have been waiting so long for a major life event to make amends and now I get to attend your wedding and make one of your eleventy billion toasts.
I, however, will not apologize to Cathy, my best friend from college, who gushed to me over the phone about getting engaged and saving a date, etc. Then never sent me an invitation. I of course, being a boy, was clueless and kept calling and leaving messages - up until one week before their wedding. At the time I was confused; now I chuckle and hope I made her feel a little guilty. She was my best friend after all!
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