As anyone who has ever planned a wedding -- or anyone who has a friend to whom they listened for even two seconds on the subject -- knows, there is always a pull between what the bride and groom want, what their parents want, and even what their friends want. (I know of more than one case where a best friend never spoke to a bride again, because they didn't invite the right people, or didn't take their suggestion on buying the right dress, or, okay, in one case because the friend had just started dating the bride's recent ex.)

A minor example in our case was whether Steve and I wanted to send an announcement into the New York Times about our wedding. It was a parental suggestion, and not something we cared one way or the other about -- the subject was brought up once and we really haven't thought about it again. Until I came up with a brilliant way to circumvent the whole issue. . . just get ourselves interviewed for the New York Times wedding pages instead!

To read our brilliant comments on the subject of wedding planning in the March 11 issue of the New York Times, please read this Field Notes article from the Weddings and Celebrations section.

posted by Karen @ 4:58 PM